Monday, May 31, 2010

The Winner of my first giveaway!!!

Today's Baby giveaway is   Heather  @ gerber days blog.  I am so excited & happy first day of my idea of summer! :) Thanks Heather and keep checking in for other things and if anyone has anything to giveaway!!

Meet Me Monday & Memorial Day!!

Well its a new week! Here we go. I first wanted to start by saying today is Memorial Day...a day to remember our fallen soldiers and an opportunity to thank the ones who are currently serving our country. Our US military, and their families, make me so incredibly proud and humbled by their service.

My family is touched by the military and the honor we feel that makes such a big impact on each and everyone of us. My Grandpa Elmer who lived in Hawaii during the times of pearl Harbor, My dad Frank & husband Chris are all Merchant Marine's, the most under appreciated part of the military but lets not forget the Merchant Marine's that have died supplying our troops. In World War || 9,300 gave their lives. Merchant Marine's are all signed up to go at a moments notice with the coast guard to bring support to a war if they are needed. Yes even ferry workers are signed up for this they do know this when they sign up for the Merchant mariners document. 

My Grandpa BoBo who past away when I was 5 was in the Navy and a part of the Korean War. I have heard many wonderful stories and how much he gave to his country, family & Community.  I wish he would have been the one that could have told me these stories himself. 

My Father in Law "Dewey" Was also in the Navy and last year on Memorial day he invited us to join him at the VFW and had us help serve the service men/women. When we were done serving they had each of the service members stand up while I never had experienced the feeling of being proud and thankful to these men and women like that before, all along were so selfless that they would lay down their lives for the country. I felt very lucky, honored and proud that my father in law served during the war and I felt so amazed and overwhelmed that it brought me to tears. 

I am an incredibly grateful and myself & my family appreciates the men and women, and their families. To the children who get left behind and to the spouse that become a single parent, in absence of their loved one. To the people who sacrifice so much to protect our freedoms and what America still stands for even when it seems like most people have forgotten. Well we haven't, we are blessed to have people that still  volunteer. I am amazed at all their dedication to our great country. We are blessed to have all of those that are so brave.

So, with that...thank you. Thank you all SO much for what you do and how very much you give.

On to meet me Monday! ...........

1. Is there something you've always wanted to try but just can't muster up the courage to actually do yet? I would very much like to try to sky dive, I would like to have enough courage to also start to sing in front of people again.

2. If you had $100 handed to you in cash without your significant other knowing about it, what would you spend it on? At this moment I would buy stuff for our house, especially for the outside. If I didn't do that I would buy soap making stuff! :) Or scrapbooking items for the scrapbooking retreat I am going on in July!

3. What was your favorite piece of playground equipment as a child? The swing's!

4. Do you prefer a sweet or hearty breakfast? Sweet! :)

5. Are you a Neat Freak or a Messy Bessy? Complete neat freak 99.9% of the time!

Sunday, May 30, 2010

A trip to Seattle.... The Inn at the Market.

I parked the car at the Washington State Ferry dock on Bainbridge Island Rode across on the MV Tacoma. I was welcomed by the very friendly ferry worker & dock attendant as I walked on the over head walk way. I love the women’s restrooms on the Bainbridge ferryboats, the lovely ferry employee “lady” Nelly B put’s flowers in made up vases of old water bottles and brings flowers from her garden at home, going above and beyond she has even  bought fake flowers for when they are not in season. It just makes it welcoming and that added touch to brighten the riders already long days, making it feel a little more special.

When “Hubs” & I got off the ferry we walked up to 1st Ave in Seattle where we got our first coffee of the weekend. At the Starbucks on the corner. It is a super easy walk to the Inn even in the down poor of rain that we ran into. I know I am a true Seattle girl because I don’t need an Umbrella to keep me dry.
The Inn at the market, is beautiful you are welcomed warmly by the bellhops at this  boutique hotel. (even in the rain they had smiles on their faces) It is the only hotel located in the beautiful tourist destination of The Pike Place Market. The Sign to point you to the inn at the front makes you know instantly that you are about to enter something great. When we followed the bell hop into the courtyard of our hotel I felt like we had just been handed a pass to a secret and secluded little world where we were the only two invited. With their own Restaurant one of Seattle's most acclaimed restaurants, campagne cafe & Campagne. The cafe is where we got many more coffees over our stay.  There are also two cute shops that even they had hand picked details that I have never seen anywhere else.

The hospitality begins with the attentive staff happy to oversee every detail of our stay. The Lovely Lady that checked us in asked us what she could do for our stay to make sure that it was just perfect for us. Being early like always, they got us checked in earlier then the check in time & we asked her a few questions on where we should eat after making the hard choice of where to go she made us reservations at The Pink Door, which was wonderful, but your have to wait because I will tell you more about that later in a review all on its own. The Bell hop showed us to our room, taking us to the 6th floor to room 608, one of the 70 rooms on the property. 

When we walked in we were awe struck by the amazing view, At that moment I could have stayed and never left the room, for the 24 hours we were there for. The Bathroom was  with an extra large shower & tub combo, beautiful lighted crown molding with a raised ceiling. Both bright and crisp without even noticing there was no natural light.  The Mini bar was above my expectations thinking of every detail one might crave during their midnight munchies. An added bonus for me was that they stocked diet coke in the fridge for a small fee.  There has been many times I have paid an arm and leg for this amenity.  A Queen size bed with a memory foam mattress that was very comfortable to sleep in. A flat screen TV with all the channels that you would need. Complementary wifi. (love this) A table & two chairs placed perfectly  in the bay window making it easy to relax, sit back and watch the views of Pudget Sound and all it has to offer. Being right on top of Pike Place you could open the window and smell the baked good, and the smell of coffee that crept in.

What made it even more special is the rooftop deck they offer for their guests to use & enjoy. Here is where you can lay in an out door lounge chair and enjoy one of the best views of downtown Seattle, & Elliott Bay. Grab some wine, a good book ( on a sunny & warm day) We will be coming back to enjoy it on a hot Seattle summer day.

The hotel thinks of everything one might need down to the detail of a complementary umbrella for us to use while we explored Seattle and all it has to offer. Which really came in handy for us when we did. The rain couldn’t stop us with our sight seeing & It did make it feel romantic when we were able to snuggle even closer under it to save us from the rain. We made our way up Pine Street, taking in the sites and sounds of the city we went to Nordies.
We then walked over the sky bridge and strolled from top to bottom of Pacific Place where we had lunch at Gordon Biersch. Got my shopping sweet tooth on at whitehouse/blackmarket, where the store manager Sherilynn Prichard made me feel like I was Julia Robert’s in Pretty women.  The new spring line was amazing and I can’t wait to go back for more. Its nice to have such great quality with reasonable prices. Sherilynn told me they do fundraising events that they will even put together a fashion show for you that a percentage will go towards your charity! Now that is what I call a great retail therapy for a great cause! 

On our way back to the hotel we got cheese cake from The Cheese Cake Factory & we stopped into a underground grocery store where we were able to grab some stuff and eagerly headed back to our cozy hotel room.

In the morning we had room service deliver our breakfast at 9:00 AM so we could take advantage of the hotels noon check out time. Making it so relaxing to have the extra time. Where I took full advantage of relaxing & snuck in a long hot bath before checking out. They do offer in room couples and solo massages. I will be doing this when I go back in December to have some extra special holiday romance with the “hubs” where we can take in some Seattle holiday magic. 

Our room we stayed in was $375.00 a night.  Some might think that this is a bit much but is it way worth it for the experience of the magic this hotel has to offer. Plus with a staycation like this for a local you don’t have to pay the air fare and right there makes so of a difference.

I can not wait to go back again!

Friday, May 28, 2010

Lynn Hammond...Harbor Hair design.

When do local become locals here in our little town?  How long do most of us have to live in a town before they are considered to be a local? What do the old timers  say about it?  I asked this question a while ago to my grandpa Elmer “Longmate”  Who was born in his parent’s farm house in South Kingston he replied “we are local, the others are not  Then he went on to say, if your family is in the Kingston cemetery then you are a local. When I asked my Dad Frank (Longmate) the same question he said a few names and then I asked him if Lynn Hammond is a local & he said “Oh yeah she is a local, when someone’s been in this town for as many years as she has then you are considered to be a local for sure. “

So with that I decided that she would be my next women business that I would highlight. I didn’t know her like one might think, but I did go to school with her daughter Vanessa and hearing stories of the bus rides she use to take going to school with my Dad & being in a small community like Kingston even when you don’t know someone well, you still “know them”, and what I know of Lynn is she is an amazing women that works hard and loves her clients and thinks of them as an extension of her family.

Lynn  moved to Jefferson beach in Kingston, June 1967, She had just finished the 7th grade in Seattle when her parents decided that Kingston would be a great place to raise a family. Thinking that Seattle was too wild, for them, “but Little did they know they were moving me to party central, but that is a different story for another time.” Moving to the country must have been a real shock considering that Lynn had never been camping had moved into a tent for the summer while thier house was being built. They didn’t even have any running water or power.  At the time Lynn’s father was a civilian working in VietNam.

In 1972, Lynn graduated from North Kitsap High School. Directly following, she started beauty school in Bremerton and by that time her family had moved to Hansville, There were no freeway’s then, so Lynn had to drive a very long way six days a week for  a year. Completing it in 1973.

After Beauty school Lynn found herself with a job in Edmonds lasting for only three months she couldn’t take the commute any longer so she quit. Floating around  to a few different salons  & having life speeding past her Lynn married,became a Mom to two Children, divorced. Leading her to look at finding a place to work in down town Kingston so she could do the single mom thing and be closer to her home & kids.  Lynn found a place in  Kingston  in the building where the sheriff’s office is now. In no time at all, she had bought the business from the owner. Soon realizing  that the hardest part of owning her business is the fact that she  knew absolutely nothing about running a business.

In 1989 Sue Newman joined her at the salon, brining lots of talent. They have now worked together for 20 years. Twelve years after they started to work together, they moved to the place in which Lynn fondly refers to as the hole. After four years there Lynn and Sue moved to the location where they are at still to this day.  “I am very proud of the people I work with and of the way my salon has grown. We take pride in the fact that our work is very good.”  Lynn considers the people that she works with her best friends, three of them were raised here, and raised their own families here, making it that much more special to work in Kingston.

Over the years Lynn has taken many business  & hair classes, even becoming a Redken Certified Hair colorist, now leading her down the road to begin teaching other hairstylists.  Lynn thanks her husband David, of fourteen years for being very supportive of all her adventures in business. Lynn says “It is a great feeling to be in business for 25 years in Kingston”. I don’t think being a single mother is ever easy, but the support I have received from my clients and friends has been amazing. Growing up, Lynn’s poor kids could never get away with anything because   “I usually knew about it first  by someone either calling me or stopping by the salon telling me all about it. Being in a small town at that time had its advantages.”

Lynn decided to stay here & raise her family.  Loving the small town atmosphere and to feel like her children would feel as if they truly belonged to the community.  She hopes that feeling never change’s. Sadly she feels like it  isn’t a very small town anymore. But,   Luckily there are people in Kingston who really feel the same way and have tried to keep that feeling of a small town alive.  Being so close to the big city and yet being far enough away is the best of both worlds.

When I asked Lynn If there was one thing she would change about our town it was that when Lynn goes  to the grocery store that she would actually like to know someone there besides the clerks! That part of Kingston really has changed. “Not knowing everyone anymore makes me sad” Lynn is really glad that she didn’t leave. Lynn would like to say  A great big THANK YOU to KINGSTON for many years of wonderful memories and a fantastic life for her and her family, for the great support they have been given “ I tend to get pretty emotional when I think about it. “ Lynn said.  I am glad that I got to meet this wonderful lady in person, after years of hearing about what amazing lady that still does my Grandma’s hair is, I am truly honored to have been given the privilege to interview and do this article on.

At press time I found out that My Grandma gets her done by Sue. So I am sorry for the mistake in the article & That Sue is Lynn's Associate not her business partner.  Sorry for the mistake's. 

Sex and the City 2.......

Last night I went and watched the 7pm Sex and the City 2 and I have to say that it was a wonderful movie. I am even thinking of going again. The funny thing is we all have these women in our real lives that we are friends with. We all see ourselves in one of the characters. The characters that I see myself most like ( with out the heals and trendy clothes) would have to be Carrie.  I have never related to a movie as much as I did with this one. The entire Carrie & Big thing was really how I feel with "Hub's"we are perfectly happy being just the two of us for the most part, but deep down I feel like we have pushed that feeling up to the surface to protect us, for not having a third wheel. I love being the "aunite" like Carrie does but is it really enough? 

The Fashion in Sex and the City 2 is what it always is but why are we bringing back hammer pants. It died with MC hammer why are we bringing these things back?  If I wanted to look like I wore a diaper I would slap on some depends. I did love  the fact in the last scene of the film that "Big" & Carrie were huddled on the couch and he was in his business suit and she was in an evening gown.... I think "Hub's" would shit himself if I laid down in an evening gown on the couch to watch a movie.

The film opens with a gay wedding - a gay best friend of one of the girls is marrying a gay best friend of another. "How did this happen?" asks Miranda. "I thought they hated each other!" THE Best part of the entire movie for me was seeing Liza Sing all the single ladies & being the officiant in the Gay wedding. Made my heart swells with love! Might I add that I would die for her legs......

The films' appeal lie in something grand living on the nostalgia of a once-good show, a show that managed to redefine sexual roles, and a film franchise that couldn't have done more to set them back. Now every tick and trademark of the show has become a commodity. They were into fashion? Now they change every two minutes (at one point, they change in the middle of the desert, yet they look like they've each been given 60 seconds in a Salvation Army store). Again the Hammer pants!?! What the heck?

This movie was everything Sex and the City is.. Amazing.... and I love a movie that I can laugh till I cry and cry till I laugh.  I love my girlfriends that I am lucky enough to have in my life the girlfriends that I have, make me a better person. I hope you all know how much I love you!

Yet as any Sex and the City fan will tell you - after they've told you how it's about them, and about their life and their friends,  they will tell you it's all about the message of it. The message. Yes. And the message is this: everything will be okay. That's always the Sex and the City message. Because when you have girlfriends like I do its always going to be okay. 

You may have walked into the theater wearing clearance sandals and a Target handbag, smuggling in your own popcorn and soda.... but you leave feeling like one of Carrie’s friends. Michael Patrick King empowers the characters and audience by embracing womanhood and the magic of escapism. I look forward in another two years to watch sex and the city 3.. maybe by then Carrie and I will be ready for babies.

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Sometimes....Somebody. Thankful Thursday.

Sometimes you think about the friends and people that are in your life. My Grandma Aggie told me one time when I had lost a friendship that meant everything to me in my playground world and imaginary life of being a child , she got down to my level looked into my dark brown tear filled eyes and said " God, brings friends to you that come in your life for what you need them to be. Some will last a moment and some will last forever, but they are all for you to learn things from. With every friendship even the ones that sadly will end. You will walk away learning something from them all. I find this to be true for many of my friendships from then to now. I do think one thing is for sure, I am lucky to have my Mom she was my first friend and truly my best friend. I just wish that the girl that at times treated her mom like a punching bag for my emotional outbursts could go back in time and show the younger me just how much better it is to get along and treat her well, because she does so much for me. Always have and always will. 

I started to think about what makes somebody a friend?  How do you decide if someone is a best  friend,a good friend, an acquaintance, a friend by default, or convenience. You know those friends, a friend by default is a friend who your only really friends with because you were always hanging out with the same people. Truth be told you would never be friends outside in the real world. That you are really just friend because its the "click" you are a part of. 

When I was a young girl we lived in the very rural town of Hansville. There was one bus stop for all the kids in area because there was only a few of us that they didn't want to waste the gas. The kids that lived in Hansville were friends because no one else would drive their kids out for a play date.   I made friends at school very easy but the only friend I hung out with was my moms best friends kid. S & I were the best of friends and being that we were both only children only made sense that we would become a lot like sister, hair pulling, love hate relationships. Would we have been friends if our mom's hadn't been? I don't think so, but when I look back on my childhood I know it would have never been the same with out her in it. I still love her with all my heart. 

I made friends where ever I went. I am a still like that. I  had sleep overs, birthday parties, play dates. My parents made me do all kinds of activities swim team, singing, art classes, sewing classes. You name it they had me try it if I asked.  In the past I would have described a friend as somebody I liked to hang out with.  Someone I sat next to at the lunch table with at school.  Somebody I called and talked to whenever homework was done, that was when I was able to talk to them from 7 to 7:30 after homework and before bed time.

When I was in high school a friend was somebody I could talk to and spend my time with outside of school. Endless lazy days. My Mom has an illness that she has had for most of her life. Because of this I didn't stay at other people's house's very often. I would bring my friends to my house and she always allowed me to bring my friends to our house. Never asking questions and always making it fun. A friend at that point was somebody to pass notes to in class about my latest crush, asking did you think he looked at me in "this" way or "that" way?   Somebody that would double date at prom, that would ride in my car, that would dream with me about my future life. 

When I was in in my early twenties, a friend would be someone that I could tell things to about what was going on in my life, someone I worked with. someone I could go out dancing with and laugh about the things we saw. Someone who helped me color my hair, Someone that would fix me a drink after a bad date with a guy that clearly didn't appreciate a descent girl, All the while watching chick flicks & hanging out with my two favorite guys Ben & Jerry's.

Now Here I am in my early thirty's  and I'm just now finally starting to understand what being a true friend is really about.  Now someone that is a friend is someone that checks in on you when you don't even know that you need them to. A friend that knows there's nothing they can do to fix the situation but they want to do whatever it takes to hold you up.  Someone that wouldn't think twice to take time out from their own very busy life to give you the support that you need just to get through the day, the week, the month, the hard times that you are going through.  A friend is someone that shares their deepest darkest secrets regardless how chaotic, crazy, hilarious, or gross they are & you do the same thing knowing that it is safe.  Someone that laughs about life with you when nobody else gets it. Someone that loves you for who you are not for who you want to be. A friend in my 30's is someone that gives to you as much as they take.

A friend is someone you can go weeks without talking to because life gets crazy, but as soon as you pick up the phone or meet for a coffee that time that has gone by is like it has only been a day ago, It's like they were never really gone at all. A friend is someone that isn't afraid to tell you the truth, even if it's a painful truth. A true friend is someone they can tell you a whats for and they know you won't fly off the handle.  A friend is someone you can talk about all of life's mysteries and up's and down's, work, marriage, parenting, loss never feeling judged or embarrassed.  Someone you can talk to about your painful past that still haunts you, the present that challenges you and the future that gives you panic attacks, & anxiety. Someone that knows when to just listen, knows when to give advice, and knows when to cry along with you.  They stand up for you because in your 30's your friends become your family. You go from 100's of friends on your contact list to a handful of wonderful friends that you can put in the I.C.E. section  of your contact on your cell phone.
I'm blessed & thankful that I have a few close friends, a few that I grew up with, a few I have only known a while, and a few that are my best friends for all different reason. That they fit most of these descriptions of a true friend.  I look forward to meeting new friends. For me the new friends that I have made and grown to love are from my blogging world & Most of us have never met in person,  but I feel more bonded to these girls than most people I see in my daily life. They are friendships I can't wait to see grow. I love to blog not just to update people in my life but the ones that I have "met" online & the other social networks that have opened doors to many exciting and new thing. I know that this has been one of the greatest experiences of my life.  I'm so thankful for each and everyone of them....

A girl could never have to many shoes, handbags, or girlfriends. With this being said I think we girls in the PNW need to plan a day in a local park with our families and really get to know eachother. We all love one another from cyber space we mail Christmas card, birthday cards, emails and are forever sending the encouragement to each other that each and everyone of us 
truly need. We all impact one another's lives and its truly amazing. 

You all know who you Betty White would say......Thank you for being a friend! <3

Wordless Wednesday's!

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Tempt My Tummy Tuesday


The Dough

This recipe will make four individual sized 12-inch pizzas. I generally half the recipe though without incident.

1- 3/4 tsp active dry yeast
Pinch of sugar
1-1/3 cups warm water
1/4 cup olive oil, plus additional for brushing the crust
3-3/4 cups all-purpose flour
1-1/2 tsp salt

**You Can Mix the Dough By Hand:**
Stir the yeast and sugar into the water in a large mixing bowl; let stand until foamy about 5 minutes.
Stir in the oil. Mix the flour and salt and stir, 1 cup at a time, into the yeast mixture, beating well to get all of the lumps out.
Knead on a lightly floured surface until soft and satiny, but firm, about 8 minutes.

**Or You Can Choose to Mix the Dough in Your Mixer:**
Stir the yeast and sugar into the water in a mixer bowl; let stand until foamy, about 5 minutes.
Stir in the oil with the paddle.
Mix the flour and salt and add to the yeast mixture.
Mix until the dough comes together.
Change to the dough hook and knead at medium speed until soft and satiny but firm, about 3 minutes. Finish kneading briefly by hand on a lightly floured surface.

At this point place the dough into a lightly oiled bowl, cover tightly and allow it to rise for 1 hour. Then punch the dough down, cover it again. and allow it to rise a second time for approximately 30 minutes.

Next, pre-heat the oven to 500ºF. Liberally sprinkle your baking sheets with olive oil. Divide and shape the dough. Generally, we cook one pizza per pan. For BBQ Chicken Pizza layer the below toppings in the following order: BBQ sauce, cheese, chicken, red onions, and finally pepper. Bake for 10 minutes and then immediately remove the pizzas from the pans and place them on a cutting surface or board. Slice and serve.

Toppings for One Pizza:
1 cup shredded roast chicken.
2/3 cup BBQ Sauce
1-1/2 cups shredded mozzarella

(We’ve also used various blends of Parmesan, Fontina, and Gouda before.
Any or all of these cheeses make a great topping).
1/2 small red onion, thinly sliced
Freshly ground black pepper

Monday, May 24, 2010

Meet ME Monday! :)

I'm going to do this post on ten things that make me happy. I have so many things to be happy about might  as well share it! 

1. Comments/Emails/Mail/Awards from readers- seriously that is the best!  Being able to connect with people I have never met and get encouragement and feedback from them, make me feel so loved....

2. Hearing from an old friend- there is just something about talking to someone who you haven't talked to in just warms my heart and feels so good to start right off where you last left it. 

3. Mani & Pedi's ( humm I might have to go get these tomorrow.)

4. I love bubble baths. I love bubbles ,and magazines to read while in the tub, top it off with a ice cold diet coke. 

5. Decorating makes me happy. I love to pick out just the right things for the house. I really like to do it on a budget of thrift stores, yard sales, & craigslist.

7. Going on a long drives, It makes me really happy when it ends at the ocean. 

8. Traveling is truly what makes me the happiest. I love the fact that I get to see new things and explore.

9. Movies! in the theater or drive in, but when I get that red envelope in the mail is when I am as giddy as a child at a candy store. I LOVE MY movies. 

10. Watching Hub's sleep. He is so peaceful when he sleeps I love to just lay there and memories his face.

Saturday, May 22, 2010

Mean girls????

I have been thinking about Mean girls ( over 30 that should know better.) Everyone knows them and some of us have been one. When the news is talking about it non stop I thought that I would reflect a little about it.

Stop what you're doing and think. Think back to a time when you were in high school, surrounded by critical girls, cliques, and insecurity, where anything you said could be held against you and social events could flip flop between being exhilarating and excruciating, often several times in one night. 
Whispering that stops when you walk into the room. Eyes rolling when you crack a joke. Stony silence when you try to make conversation. Cruel behavior is so common among women that it has its own name: female aggression. Unfortunately, it doesn't end after high school – it can happen anywhere, from the water cooler at work to the PTA meeting. So why do grown women bully each other and what you can do about it?

What can turn perfectly sane women into catty competitors, pretending to have each others' backs while waiting to stab each other in it? Psychotherapists say,  it's easy to get sucked in when you are an adult because you go right back to the old high school girl that is still stuck inside you.. When you think of bullying, you probably picture the tough guy who beat up the chess club president in school. But women bully too. And usually it has nothing to do with physical contact. 

Though women are less inclined to yell and scream, start a fist fight or punch each other in the nose, they use subtler but equally hurtful bullying tactics. Among their favorites: backstabbing, giving the cold shoulder and being passive-aggressive.

Disagreeing publicly is one thing, but why do some take it so far? We all have baggage from high school.  Very few people say  “I felt self confident back then.' Most women had issues with other girls, that is part of who we are today. When we are stressed out and get upset, we immediately go back to default settings, acting more like the girl from high school - lashing out, retreating and less of our evolved adult self.  Women know how to push other women's buttons - plain and simple.

You might ask what a women bully is. They are devious, vindictive. Have a selective memory. Need to control. Excel at twisting the truth.  They also adore gossip. Most women don't consider gossip to be a bullying behavior, but it is, Anyone who has been the subject of a vicious rumor will certainly agree. Recently this has happened to me personally. There is nothing that cuts deeper.  It never made me feel worse, such an emotional roller coaster. I thought I was mad at first but that isn’t me. Those of you who know me well, know that this is so true. I now feel hurt. I don’t know how I will ever not look at the “mean girl” and smile or be pleasant to her.

While the 'if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all' rule seems to go out the window when it comes to the real world, I still remember my mom teaching me this & we all know the “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me?” In many cases I wish someone would just freaking punch me!  We all need to think about what you say and how you say it before leaving a forever trail to your momentary bitterness.

I am going to focus on trying to find something that gives me a bigger sense of purpose. Maybe volunteer or find an activity that I  love. What is something you would like to try that is new or something that maybe you use to do??? Maybe it's writing, playing sports or painting. Devoting time to your passions may not make the bully problem go away. But if you have an activity that truly makes your life worth living, those gossips in your yoga class will lose some of their hold over you. 

So I know that I Don't need to force my way into a group that won't accept me, yes in the past I would do anything to have been in the cool crowd. Being insecure myself a few years ago, I decided my “new” friends were better then one of the best friends I have had my entire life. This life lesson was the biggest eye opener for having such a great loss for me. It really made me grow up and take inventory of the people I had in my life. Thankfully me and my old friend worked everything out after four years.  Now it always comes to my mind that if and when I am about to share in the gossip or say something that might be taken out of context, I really don't need to say anything about it at all.

Remember you'll only set yourself up for more heartache as the “mean girls” continue to exclude you. Instead of obsessing over the women who give you the cold shoulder, or say hurtful things, try to seek out friends, colleagues and neighbors who make you feel comfortable and accepted. Maybe you need to figure out who to weed out in your life. I did this and now instead of a ton of friends I have a hand full of best friends. I am so much happier and freer now that I took the time to do this. I know that the girls in my life now are my secret keepers, my rocks, my family.
The ones I know will tell me how it is even if it would hurt to hear it. The ones I can say anything to even if its going to hurt them. I now understand that I can be myself and know that is all anyone has ever needed me to be.

I do hope that the “mean girls” out there will take a walk in someone else’s shoes a few miles. And if you do say something about someone they will find out, they will be mad, they will be upset. That words cut deeper then a knife. That sometimes when you say something in anger or to hurt someone you can’t ever take it back.

Be careful out there, mamas - and be nice.

Friday, May 21, 2010

Link Love Saturday! :)

I have to say, I love finding new things on blogs, be it crafts, places to see, things to do, stories that make me feel something different. I am always wanting to meet friends. So today I want to tell you about a few great new blogs.
So here are some links I love... Enjoy!

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Trip on a tank... Manresa Castle review

The rich history of the Manresa Castle is what makes it a must see when you are vacationing in Port Townsend. 

The Castle was completed in 1892 as the home of Charles and Kate Eisenbeis. Mr. Eisenbeis was a prominent member of the early Port Townsend business community. His business interests were diverse including a bakery, brick works, lumber mill, brewery, bank and a hotel. In 1878, when Port Townsend became the first incorporated city in Jefferson County, its citizens elected Eisenbeis as the first mayor.

Wanting to keep a status in the community, Eisenbeis a private residence built consisting of 30 rooms. Locals referred to it as "Eisenbeis Castle." The walls are 12 inches thick, made with bricks. After Charles died in 1902  the castle was left empty for almost 20 years except for a caretaker.

In 1925, a Seattle attorney bought the Castle as a vacation place for nuns teaching in Seattle schools. This plan did not work out well and in 1927 the Jesuit priests purchased the building for use as a training college. The priests spent their sixteenth and final year of training here.

In 1928, the Jesuits added a large wing housing a chapel and sleeping rooms. They also installed the elevator (an Otis) the Jesuits stuccoed over the bricks of the original portion to give the building a more uniform look. They named the complex "Manresa Hall" after the town in Spain where Ignatius Loyola founded the order.

The Jesuits left in 1968 and the building was converted into a hotel. The elements "Manresa" and "Castle" were taken from the two previous owners to create the current name.
The three different owners since 1968 have all done their part to lovingly renovate the building to modern standards while maintaining its Victorian elegance. For example, there were only 3 bathrooms when the Jesuits left, today they have 43.

The Stories of the place being Haunted was a big plus that peaked my intrest and so I grabbed my mom and headed up to do a girls night.  We got to the hotel and the receptionist told us that our room wasn't ready so we decided to go walk around down town. We were able to do some shopping at some of our favorite shops like The Green eyeshadeTickled Pink Gifts,  The Kitchen Cove just to name a few places we stepped into. We were able to go get some yummy dinner  my mom had the FRENCH DIP for $11 with Fresh baguette, sliced juicy rib eye, a thick wedge of brie and house made au jus. I had the  B.L.T.R.T.C. for $10.00 Baguette with thick bacon, lettuce, tomato, roasted turkey and cream cheese. We got two pieces of pie to go I got the peach and mom got the blackberry. The food was amazing!!! We will go back again and again to silverwatercafe    

After we were done with Dinner we went and saw date night at The Rose Theatre. A few hours later and we went back to the hotel. A different lady was there to help us to our room, On the elevator ride up she told us we were in the "Haunted room" That we were in the room that the Ghost "Kate" had jumped out the bedroom window to her death. She had killed herself when she was told that her husband was lost at sea. Two weeks after her death he came back to the house to see her. Sadly he came back to learn she has died.  The other ghost was a priest who had an evil spirit and decided to hang himself.  The lady told us on our way up all the scary things that have happend into the room.  Room 306 it pretty popular to stay in because of that.  We didn't notice anything at all maybe the Ghosts didn't want to be a part of my review.  

The room itself was comfortable, the decor was nice enough but nothing to write home to mom about. I would have hoped for a bath tub. A hair dryer,  The Fur babies, are not welcome at this hotel. It was a Monday night and the resturant and bar were both closed. Which was a bit of a let down. Not only that but for the price of the room for one night was a bit steep for what you get for your money.  Another pretty big let down was the breakfast. Nothing hot to eat just cold cereal and breakfast cookies from Costco.  Over all I have to say I was a pretty disappointed with the entire experience at the hotel.
So take my advise and maybe visit for a dinner or a drink in the bar, when you stay at another great place in Port Townsend..( except on Monday's then find some where else to go to eat or get a drink.) 

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Happy 8th Anniversary, The day I married my best friend..

Once upon a time there was two babies that were born in 1977. 
Hub's was born on October 31st  
& Kingstongirl was born two months early arrived on July 6th.

Little did they know that these two would fall in love one day. 

Our first close encounter was when we got these pictures taken. Who would have thought that even then the stars were aligned. 

We would have been best friends if we would have know each other then.. Always so happy Hubs and I were growing up!

Then we had our second missed encounter when are two best friends dated. How this happened is beyond me.! 
Then we met, became best friends & fell in love...
Which then lead to this....................................... That brings us today our 8 year anniversary!  We have had so many great things happen, seen so many things. Are truly in love & will always be best friends....

           Today I married my best friend
This day I married my best friend

...the one I laugh with as we share life's wonderous zest,

as we find new enjoyments and experience all that's best.
...the one I live for because the world seems brighter
as our happy times are better and our burdens feel much lighter.
...the one I love with every fiber of my soul.
We used to feel vaguely incomplete, now together we are whole.

This couldn't have been said better 

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

Wordless Wednesday....

                                                              Happy Anniversary!!!!
link love  

Monday, May 17, 2010

Tempt My Tummy Tuesday

I am so Obsessed with cupcakes! Being it the anniversary week with the Hub's I decided that it would be great to do TMTT on sweet eats that are so yummy! 


Sweetheart Cupcakes.

  • 1 (18.25 ounce) package white cake mix
  • 1 1/4 cups water
  • 1/3 cup vegetable oil
  • 3 egg whites
  • 8 drops red food coloring
  • 2 drops raspberry candy oil


   1. Preheat an oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Line a standard muffin tin with paper cupcake liners.
    2. Beat the cake mix, water, vegetable oil, and egg whites together on low speed for 30 seconds, then on medium for 2 minutes, until smooth. Fill cupcake liners 1/3 full with white batter; set aside.
    3. Stir 4 drops of red food coloring into the remaining bowl of batter to make the batter pink, stir in the raspberry oil. Pour 1/3 of pink batter into a resealable plastic bag and set aside.
   4. Mix more food coloring into the remaining bowl of pink batter until it is an orange/red color and pour the batter into a resealable plastic bag. Cut a corner off the bag, stick the open tip into the center of each cup of white batter and squeeze in about two tablespoons of red batter.
   5. Cut the corner off the bag with the pink batter, stick the open tip into the center of the red batter and squeeze about 1 tablespoon pink batter into each cup.
   6. Bake the layered cupcakes in the preheated oven until a toothpick inserted into the center comes out clean, 15 to 20 minutes. Cool completely before frosting.



  • 1 (8 ounce) package reduced-fat cream cheese, softened
  • 1/2 cup white sugar
  • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
  • 1/2 teaspoon almond extract
  • 2 cups heavy cream


  1. Combine the cream cheese, sugar, vanilla extract and almond extract in a large mixing bowl or the bowl of a stand mixer. Fit the mixer with the whisk attachment and mix on medium speed until smooth. While the mixture is still whipping, slowly pour in the heavy cream. Stop and scrape the bottom of the bowl a couple of times while you continue whipping until the cream can hold a stiff peak. 

Black and White Cupcakes! 

Chocolate icing:

    * 1/4 cup whipping cream
    * 1 tablespoon light corn syrup
    * 4 ounces bittersweet (not unsweetened) or semisweet chocolate, chopped
    * 1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract

White icing:

    * 1 cup powdered sugar
    * 2 tablespoons whipping cream
    * 2 teaspoons fresh lemon juice


    * 3 large eggs, room temperature
    * 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
    * 1 teaspoon grated lemon peel
    * 1 1/2 cups cake flour
    * 3/4 teaspoon baking powder
    * 1/4 teaspoon salt
    * 1 1/4 cups sugar
    * 3/4 cup (1 1/2 sticks) unsalted butter, room temperature
    * 1/3 cup buttermilk


For chocolate icing:
Bring cream and corn syrup just to simmer in heavy small saucepan over medium heat. Remove from heat. Add chocolate and vanilla; whisk until melted and smooth.
For white icing:
Whisk all ingredients in small bowl to blend. Let both icings stand 1 1/2 hours at room temperature to thicken.
For cupcakes:
Preheat oven to 325°F. Line 12-cup muffin tin with paper liners. Whisk eggs, vanilla, and lemon peel in medium bowl to blend. Mix cake flour, baking powder, and salt in another medium bowl. Using electric mixer, beat sugar and butter in large bowl until well blended, stopping occasionally to scrape down sides of bowl. Gradually beat in egg mixture. Beat in dry ingredients alternately with buttermilk in 2 additions each.
Divide batter among cups. Bake until tester inserted into centers comes out clean, about 25 minutes. Cool cupcakes in pan on rack 5 minutes. Remove cupcakes from pan and cool completely.
Spread chocolate icing over half of each cupcake. Spread white icing on second half of each cupcake. Let stand until set, about 1 hour. (Can be made 1 day ahead. Store in single layer in airtight container at room temperature.)
smitten kitchen

Sunday, May 16, 2010

Meet ME Monday! :)

I got these questions once again from My little life.

1. Take your night, girls night out, or night out alone?

This is easy for me.... A date night with Hub's it is my favorite thing to do. I am looking forward to celebrating our anniversary this week. We are going to hang out in Seattle, staying at the Inn at the Market. Going to see a movie and enjoy our time together. 

2. What is your dream job? If I had to pick right at this moment it would be writing for the paper and also doing these fun reviews! ;) 
If I could pick one that I would 110% drop everything and do right now? It would be to get an RV and travel the united states all the while being camp hosts. It would be the highlight of my life and I would end up righting a book about it. 

3. What is your favorite flower and why? Oh my favorite are lilacs. They were my great grandma's favorite and every year we would put it on her grave site while we cleaned around our families plot in the Kingston cemetery.  My whole life my Grandma Aggie has grown these and given them to me on May day. She loves them because my Great Grandma her mother in law loved them. 

4. If you could go back in time, what advice would you give yourself?

Wow...I would tell myself a lot....if I were to give myself just one little tid bit of information...I would tell myself not to stress out about love, he is waiting for you and you will meet him in a few years and he will be the love of your life. Not to worry about things so much, live a lot more because one day you wont have youth and health and right now you do so live life to the fullest! 

I would tell myself that your Mom is now your best friend and will always be your best friend. That even when you fight she loves you more then you will ever know. When you are about 32 this will hit you like a ton of bricks and you will have wasted so much time being a spoiled brat. 

5. If you won the lottery, what is the very first thing you would do?
I would tell Hub's to call in dead! Pay off all of our bills!! Buy or build our dream house. Take Hub's entire family to Disneyworld and then a Disney cruise. I would take my side of the family to Hawaii.  Then Chris and I would go travel. 

Have a wonderful week. I am going to be busy celebrating our 8th year of marriage......I am a blessed and very lucky girl! 

Link love week. Why Not its love week in this house! 
Mommy's sippy cup.
Luke I am your father. ( a Seattle Dad's blog)
the mombshelter.